Relationship Advice #2 – Being Selfless

I feel like nowadays, there are many people who only think about themselves. I’m not sure if it’s the way people are being brought up, or if society has changed people’s thoughts on a lot of things. I’ve noticed people in general have become more selfish. They tend to only think about themselves and what they’re going to benefit from situations.

When you’re in a relationship, you can’t be selfish. You have to be selfless because you have to think about the other person as well. Sooner or later, if it does lead to marriage and children, you would have to think of the children as well. You can’t just think that you can do what you want and not worry about what your significant other thinks. You have to respect him/her.

If something comes up, let that person know about it (regardless if it’s your significant other, parents, or anyone else important in your life). Don’t stand your bf/gf up. Don’t do no call/no show. You wouldn’t do that at a job that you respect, so don’t do it to him/her. If he/she does something nice or sweet for you, let him/her know how much you appreciate it, and thank him/her. Think about his/her feelings. Not just your own.

If you are a workaholic, and you’re focused on your career. Make time for your boyfriend/girlfriend when you get a chance. Don’t neglect them. Don’t put them on the side and not worry about his/her feelings, especially if they’ve been through so much with you. Don’t just toss him/her to the side and talk to him/her when you feel like it. He/she has feelings too, and if you don’t treat ’em right, they might up & walk out of your life, and you’ll regret it later on.

Hope these random thoughts and what not helps.

~Sherr Bear

Relationship Advice #1 – Communication

Trying something else different today. I decided to write about some advice I’d like to give couples out there, especially to the men who don’t really talk about their feelings.

One of the most common relationship problems is communication. It is very important for both parties to talk with each other. If you’re happy, talk about it. If you’re sad, talk about it. If something is bothering you, talk about it. If there is a misunderstanding, definitely talk about it. Don’t let something small turn into something big.

I think that with so many different social medias nowadays, it’s very easy for couples to forget to communicate and work out their problems. Instead, we hide behind these different apps or sites like Facebook or Instagram and hope that problems will resolve on their own.

I am a firm believer that there are always solutions to a problem, but whether that communication is there, that’s the key point in a relationship. Without communication, misunderstandings grow bigger and bigger.

Hope this helps others out there.

Take care,

Sherr Bear