Happy 2018!

Happy New Year, everyone!

2017 came with several ups and downs, not just for me, but for those around me too.

Angels. There were many that we lost this year, either from natural processes or from depression. It was really a dark moment for many.

Cosplay hiatus. I took a little break from cosplay to focus more on myself because of other surrounding factors.

Friendships. Lost a couple this year due to unforseeable factors that were really out of my control. Made me sad, but you know? It just means your journey with them came to an end. Don’t let it bring you down. Just cherish the times you had.

Health. In general, I do need to spend more time taking care of myself rather than waiting too long and letting things get worse.

Hurricane Harvey. What more can I say? It was a nightmare. Had many damages to the house, and spent money on repairs. Insurance and Fema didn’t really help.

The good news? I’ve found some amazing friends who I’ve bonded with, and that has definitely helped me through a lot of the stuff I’ve been through. I’m really thankful for those people.

Here’s to all the stuff coming my way! I’m ready for ya!!

~SherrBear

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Relationship Advice #2 – Being Selfless

I feel like nowadays, there are many people who only think about themselves. I’m not sure if it’s the way people are being brought up, or if society has changed people’s thoughts on a lot of things. I’ve noticed people in general have become more selfish. They tend to only think about themselves and what they’re going to benefit from situations.

When you’re in a relationship, you can’t be selfish. You have to be selfless because you have to think about the other person as well. Sooner or later, if it does lead to marriage and children, you would have to think of the children as well. You can’t just think that you can do what you want and not worry about what your significant other thinks. You have to respect him/her.

If something comes up, let that person know about it (regardless if it’s your significant other, parents, or anyone else important in your life). Don’t stand your bf/gf up. Don’t do no call/no show. You wouldn’t do that at a job that you respect, so don’t do it to him/her. If he/she does something nice or sweet for you, let him/her know how much you appreciate it, and thank him/her. Think about his/her feelings. Not just your own.

If you are a workaholic, and you’re focused on your career. Make time for your boyfriend/girlfriend when you get a chance. Don’t neglect them. Don’t put them on the side and not worry about his/her feelings, especially if they’ve been through so much with you. Don’t just toss him/her to the side and talk to him/her when you feel like it. He/she has feelings too, and if you don’t treat ’em right, they might up & walk out of your life, and you’ll regret it later on.

Hope these random thoughts and what not helps.

~Sherr Bear

An Open Letter To The Guy Who Let the Good Girl Go

I read an article the other morning titled, “An Open Letter To The Girl Who Let The Nice Guy Go,” and upon reading this article, I also wanted to write something with the role reversed, but through the eyes of a girl. I don’t usually write blog entries too much about thoughts & feelings, but I thought why not?

Here’s the original article I read (which was dated months back):

http://elitedaily.com/dating/an-open-letter-to-the-girl-who-let-the-nice-guy-go/589089/

Seeing how that open letter was addressed to the guy who “Girl Who Let The Nice Guy Go,” I think it’s only fair that I write one for the “Guy Who Let The Good Girl Go.” This is also a recurring theme that I see on a daily basis, not just from personal experience. Countless times have I seen guys cheat or take advantage of the good girl type of girlfriend, and it just bothers me that it happens quite often. I’ve had to listen to girls vent and cry. It’s just not right.

Why do guys do this? Boredom? Possibility, but will boredom find you the right person you’ll spend the rest of your life with? Does it really suffice your needs? Curiosity? I was once told that an ex that dumped me was similar to a penguin who had the best pebble he could find, but then decided he could find better so went on a search, but each time, he’d find pebbles that got smaller and smaller, and not as beautiful as the original. If you had something good, why throw it all away?

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Dear Guy Who Walked Away,

You know deep down that you made a mistake. How can you let this happen? She was the good girl that you always knew you could bring home to your parents, and that she was the one you would settle down for. She was smart, down to earth, caring, loving, passionate, trusting, honest, hardworking, and so much more.

You were dubbed “The Bad Boy,” or you became that during your relationship because you probably have or did do something to harm this girl. You took advantage of the fact that she was willing to spend time with you, or do things for you like bring you food at work/school, or work around her busy schedule of school and/or work just so she could spend time with you. She would help out around the house when needed, and make sure that everything you needed was taken care of. She noticed details and gifted you things that you once said that you wanted or needed.

Even though this girl has a busy schedule, she would be happy just to hear from you whether it be a text message, Facebook message, a missed call, or even a voicemail. She was low maintenance, and easy to please, but you always left her hanging. You never thought of calling her or texting her on a daily basis. You never thought of doing small gestures to make her day. You’ve probably stood her up multiple times, or canceled on her for some dumb reason.

Cheating. It doesn’t matter if it’s physically or emotionally. Cheating is cheating. Whether you act upon it via texting (or sexting), Facebook messaging, Skype, WhatsApp, Snap Chat, or even in person, all of the above is not something you should be doing. You’re just talking? When you’re spending more time talking to some girl who’s not your girlfriend and you’re even being inappropriate, that is emotionally cheating. When you’re calling some girl or texting some girl late at night asking what she’s doing and then Skyping with her rather than your girlfriend, and you’re physically attracted to that girl, that is also emotionally cheating. If you’re sending personal Snap Chats to some girl who isn’t your girlfriend, that is emotionally cheating. If you’re meeting this girl up somewhere alone to be intimate, or you guys decide to do the dirty, that is physically cheating.

Following through. When you tell your girlfriend that you will call her back or let her know something, do it. Don’t say you’re going to do it, and not follow through. This good girl was probably waiting around just to hear from you, but never did because you didn’t follow through. How would you like it if the roles were reversed and everything that you are doing or you did to her was put back on you? Probably not the best feeling, right?

Think long and hard before making the same mistake again. As for the ones making the mistake(s) right now, get your head in the right place because once you let her out of your sight, chances are that you won’t find another like her. I’m not saying that all guys need to go back to the one that got away, but if you do, more power to you. Just think about what you do before you do it. Your choice now can affect you later, and you might just regret if you make the wrong decision.

Sincerely,

Good Girl

“Am I too clingy?”

I was recently asked this question, and seeing as how this person really wanted to know the honest truth, this is what I told him/her.

Everyone has to remember that spending quality time with your significant other is important, and is considered healthy/normal in a relationship. However, this does not mean that you have to spend every waking minute or every free minute you get with the love of your life. 

When you spend too much time together, eventually, you will get sick of each other, or annoyed, because you don’t get to spend time for yourself or with your friends. Always keep in mind that you should give each other space. Don’t suffocate each other. Hope this bit of advice helps those out there.

*I normally blog more on my Tumblr accounts, 1 is my personal one (peachqt), in which I blog mainly about life & relationship stuff that people generally ask me, and 1 is a shared account I share (2fatasians), in which I blog about delicious food I encounter. Anyone is welcome to follow either blogs.*

Thanks,

Sherr Bear ^_^